The Perfect Valentine's Day For Your Beautiful Wife

February 14th is around the corner, and as a husband, don’t get caught without a plan. Like a birthday, Valentine’s Day arrives every year at the same time. By giving you an early heads up gentlemen there is no excuse. There will be suggestions here for all ‘pocket levels’ but nonetheless thoughtful, classy and special. Here are 10 ways to make your wife feel like #1 and avoid a catastrophic day. You may even get an evening to remember in return! Please be open to learning what is important to women. Always remember that they do not think and act as you do. The biggest thing wives are seeking in marriage is connection. Feeling connected to you fills her heart.

1.    The first and most important suggestion is to avoid the following 2 statements when talking to your wife about this occasion:

“Valentine’s Day is designed for women only” AND “Valentine’s Day is every day. I don’t need a special day to give you flowers and candy.”  While both statements maybe be true, wives want to feel included on that “special day” around the world like every other woman on earth. Your wife is no exception. Not only does the attention make her feel adored, Valentine’s Day validates you for going the extra mile on that day. It also gives her bragging rights among girlfriends and co-workers. Secretly every woman wants to brag about her man and make her friends a bit envious.

2.    Plan ahead - Anything you do, either just for your wife or involving the whole family, needs careful thought and preparation. You can involve your wife in the planning or surprise her. Either way, it really is the thought and effort that counts.

3.    Make Valentine’s Day a family event: Here’s an alternative. Buy cards for your children, encourage them to make gifts for their mother, and then schedule a family “Love Fest” where cards are read, and family love stories are shared.

4.    Do something awesome a few days before V-Day: Bonus plan! Show your true colors by planning something extra loving and sincere before the day like a concert or play. Demonstrate your independent spirit. However, don’t forget Feb 14. Even if she says, “I don’t want you to bother,” it’s really not true…she does!

5.     Random Acts of Kindness: Is your wife’s Love Language Acts of Service?  Why spend money you may not have on expensive flowers, chocolates and gifts, when you’re well equipped to apply serial-kindness and cumulative thoughtfulness, relentlessly, all day long. Make the bed in the morning, pack your wife a gourmet lunch with a handwritten note, pick up the kids from school or practice, wash and fold her laundry, pick up her dry cleaning, pick up dinner for the family and give her a break, detail her car and put a love note in her car seat, fill her gas tank, buy some scented candles and prepare her a warm bath, arrange a carpet picnic on the living room floor with a blanket and treats, walk the dog, take the kids to the park and give her 2 hours of “Me Time,” the list is endless. Be imaginative. The key is knowing what will truly assist your wife with her busy schedule. Saturate your wife all day with random acts of kindness.

6.     Write her a letter from your heart: Place the letter inside a romantic (blank) card that demonstrates your consummate good taste.  

7.     Cook for your wife: It is not that difficult if you’re willing to follow directions. Here’s the order of the evening:

·         Make sure the children are with a sitter (unless you’ve opted for the family Love Fest).

·         Plan your menu carefully.

·         Create a flashy-looking menu and set the table.

·         Put flowers (nothing expensive) and floating tea candles (lit in bowls of water) on the table.

·         Plan an evening of relaxation complete with her favorite adult beverage.

·         No TV, unless it’s a movie you have thoughtfully selected to watch with her.

·         Under no circumstances does she do the dishes.

·         Dessert and tea or coffee, later.

  

8.  If possible, get away from work and meet her either for lunch or coffee during the day: This may take some creativity on your part. Here’s a clue, such creative efforts mean more to your wife than expensive stuff.

9.     Amazing Gifts Direct From Amazon (most free delivery) Click the links to take you to each item: For the man who loves to provide beautiful traditional gifts for Valentine’s Day or has a wife who’s Love Language is Gift Giving, below are great, classic and classy gifts (from candy to jewelry) that will make her day complete.

·         Handwritten Signature Bracelet – capture “your unique love message in your own handwriting” made from beautiful sterling silver or gold. Jewelry that she will cherish forever!

·         The Rose Collection – Premium, fresh, real roses in a beautiful box that will last up to one year when cared for as indicated. Why give her flowers that will die in 3 days? With these premium roses your wife will be reminded of her special day for 365 days! A new twist on a classic gift.

·         For The Love of Godiva – What lady doesn’t love chocolate? Not all chocolate is created equal. Give your wife 36 of the most beloved Godiva pieces in a gold box and shipped in a “cool pack.”

·         Diamonds Are A Girl’s Best Friend – 0.4 Carat Round White Diamond Cluster Stud Earrings with 14K Yellow Gold.  **Conflict Free Diamonds**

·         For The Wife Who Has Everything – Tell her that you will marry her again and again! Give her a 1Carat, 14K White Gold, 5 Stone anniversary band. Isn’t she due for an upgrade? Let her know that she is worth it!  **Conflict Free Diamonds**

10.No matter what you do for your lovely wife, saturate her day with thoughtful “little things!” Leave a love note on her nightstand, in her purse, taped to the bathroom mirror, on the dashboard of her car, or on her desk if she works from home. Make her an MVP all day!

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